- Our Marriage Advice to Newly Weds -
After being with my lovely wife for almost a decade now (i.e. ten years), I have not come across any advice that has served as the shield of our marriage, in protecting it, nor as the blood, in keeping our marriage alive and well. Everyone's marriage is different and that makes sense because everyone is different. Sure, we all see patterns among each other to help us know who we want to befriend or associate. The same can actually be said about seeing patterns of married couples. If we hang around a couple for a long time, then we start to see certain patterns of the couple. In marriage, we see the patterns amplified from the couple. A couple desiring to have a prominent marriage will pick up the positive patterns and recognize their own negative patterns that need to be purged from their marriage. This develops a subconscious will within the married couple to have a wonderful marriage and love life.
Like many little boys and girls, it is that subconscious will (or wish) to be like someone great that drives our life. This is how marriage should be. We, married couples, must envision the peak of our marriage and together climb to it. Bridging this dream with reality, find some married couples to model after. Find what you both like from a certain married couple and agree to model the same pattern because it will help you both get closer to your vision of marriage. Ask married couples with these positive patterns on how they do it and why they do it. Investigate as if you were solving society's marriage crisis and wanted to prove how marriage actually happens and why it is sacred. And as you take from these older married couples, refine the patterns with today's circumstances in preparing to pass on these golden guidelines to future married couples.
In closing, find a few trustworthy, married couples who you both want to model your marriage after and have them mentor you (both) through life.
