Thursday, April 11, 2019

Know Your Roots in America

Family and Friends,

Throughout the journey of life, one will ask about where they came from. I am no different. My parents came from two very different parts of the world. Since, right now, I live in America, where am I from in America? The answer to this question comes down the lineage of my father who grew up in Talladega, Alabama.

My great-grandmother and great-granddad (stepdad), who raised my dad, lived in the house on the right (between this address and the warehouse, gas station).

near - 108 Martin Luther King Dr, Talladega, AL 35160

great-grandparents place (next to gas station)

front porch view

The original house I remember is replaced because a felon burned the original house down after murdering my great-granddad in it. (Luckily, my great-grandmother passed away years before this murder due to a stroke or brain hemorrhage or something.) This is the new house built (and I have no idea why they built it smaller and in yellow).

What I'm trying to figure out is the house address? Why can't I find this house address on Google Maps? Where my great-grandparents living on sharecropper's land and that's why I can't see the address?


I need to apparently go back and learn more about my roots. Many answers lie in the past, but are unknown if kept hidden or ignored. I'll see you soon, Talladega and my family roots.


Wednesday, April 10, 2019

Understanding Today's Premature Babies

"The baby’s brain undergoes much growth and development in the last weeks of pregnancy."

Family & Friends,

Like many men, I was ignorant of the entire pregnancy process and its vital role in a person's life. After all, a person starts off being a baby. I learned a lot during my wife's first pregnancy which resulted in a miscarriage. I learned a lot during my wife's pregnancy that gave us our firstborn. However, I didn't learn much about the struggle of those who have a premature baby (i.e. a baby born before s/he reaches full term pregnancy). As you probably can tell, my quote above from the article below tells how important a full term pregnancy actually is.



After watching the episode from "This Is Us" where Kate and Toby give birth to a premature baby, I was prompted to ask myself what would I do in such a situation. I asked myself how I would cope and yet stay strong for my family especially the baby. I asked myself how much I actually knew about caring for a premature baby and his/her parents. I knew nothing.

This article by Very Well Family was very helpful and educational. And, its quick chart on a premature's baby survival definitely brings a reality check.
https://www.verywellfamily.com/premature-birth-and-viability-2371529


Are you shocked by these statistics like I am? Did you know that a baby born after 25 weeks (about 6 months) has a 50/50 chance of surviving - compared to a baby born 26 weeks (about 6 1/2 months) having an 80% chance of surviving? A baby that barely reaches the last trimester only has a 50/50 chance of survival?

Just like every baby is different, every pregnancy is different. This uniqueness also applies to all babies born prematurely. Each intervention for a premature baby by our modern day healthcare requires a one-of-a-kind care. Parents of the premature baby also play a vital role in the survival of the premature baby.

Today, premature babies have such an incredible survival probability. Well, in fortunate countries like the United States that have a healthcare system supporting mothers and babies. But what did people do before we had all of this modern health technology and techniques? I can't imagine. People like me are fortunate to live in a place and time where if I did have a premature baby, I can at least still hold onto hope for my little one. Hope of surviving thanks to today's health interventions.

But before any person even thinks about such an health intervention, a person who is involved in a pregnancy should his/her very best to learn more about the pregnancy, encourage and support the pregnant woman, and pray the baby (and mother) endure the full pregnancy term. The baby's life depends on it.

Phileo Love.

Friday, March 29, 2019

Experiencing the School Lottery System

Family and Friends,

Since when did school become a privilege and not a right - for every child?

When I watched "Waiting for Superman" almost a decade ago, I never thought my wife and I would actually have to go through this process. But, this process now also applies to us as parents here in Washington, DC. One would think that any school that our kid(s) get matched with is an acceptable school. However, with the rise of public charter schools, the rise of private schools, the decline of quality education offered in public schools, and the drastic rise of population in DC (which is also gentrifying DC), the school competition is just as bad as the housing market.



For almost my entire life, I never had to worry about which school I would attend. I was an Army kid and my schools were preset for me. After college and living the world that most Americans live, I quickly caught on to the root issue for most systems in America. Our education system sucks. I'm not just saying this. Anyone can look it up online for our nation's ranking in education among all nations.

When my wife and I had to research (looking up school rankings, mapping school locations near us, using online tools like Niche) and learn about the school lottery process in DC, it was daunting. We had to learn about all the schools in DC. We had to learn about our own dreams for our first kid who would attend school. We had to learn about the school lottery system. We even went to the DC schools convention (called EdFest) to learn more about each school via school representatives. By the way, the convention was overcrowded and it's difficult to have a quality conversation with a school rep in such an atmosphere. Lastly, we had to go online (which means any parent who wants their child to enter a school offering a quality education suiting his/her child will need to be somewhat computer literate). All of this, just to hope that schools in our top picks will somehow match up with our kid. Well, after submitting our application almost one month ago, today the results came in and here they are:


Thank God, we got matched with one of our school picks! We can't imagine if our kid didn't get matched at all. How horrible of a feeling a parent will have to cope with? Would a parent then decide on homeschooling? Would a parent have to choose between working to put food on the table and schooling his/her kid with a quality education? Would a parent move, if s/he could?

Just to help myself understand the weight of these questions, I decided to investigate what my kid's lottery number actually meant in terms of probabilities getting into the school per the waitlisted schools. I couldn't find the actual number of applicants for PK3 and had to make due with the information that I did find.

For our top pick with Mundo Verde, my kid is ranked either #117 or #208. I would like to believe that this school opened another school to help increase the chances of kids getting into the school and it sounds great. But with looking at the total enrollment of 578 students for PK3-5th grade and the increasing rate of applicants, I can only remind myself that it's not actually out of the interest of the students (or parents) rather than the school's interest causing the opening of another school. Else, why not open two more schools since they have so many applicants? My complaint here isn't only directed towards Mundo Verde, but all of these schools in the lottery system.


Moving on to our next pick with DC Bilingual, my kid is ranked at #197. This school has a total enrollment of 440 for PK3-5th grade. Really, only one school from this program with this many applicants (based on my kid being ranked at almost 200)?


Last, but not least (on the waiting list) is our pick with Elsie Whitley Stokes. My kid is ranked #131 and this school has the lowest enrollment total at 350 for PK3-5th grade. This is no better than DC Bilingual especially knowing they have two language programs and the total enrollment is most likely based on both programs.


Overall, being waitlisted in the 100's when there are only about 40 slots for PK3 for each school is not really providing any hope at all. They might as well have said that my kid just didn't get in (and not raise anyone's hope).

Another challenge here is understanding what it means to be "matched" along with the rest of the  terminology here. I had to search and learn about this on the DC school lottery website.
https://www.myschooldc.org/enroll/waitlist-management

As I learned, the only reason why I don't know if my kid was accepted into E.W. (French), Yu Ying, and/or Bunker Hill is because my child got matched to a higher ranked school, Mary McLeod Bethune. This is strange because what if I decided that the location of the school now mattered more than a program offered at the school? For instance, E.W. is closer to me and perhaps I would choose E.W. (French) instead. I guess I'm just out of luck? Is this how the lottery works? Do I really need to be a pro at this school lottery game to give my kid a chance to get into the most preferred school for my family?

In addition, being the parents that my wife and I are, we also applied separately to another public charter school not participating in DC's School Lottery: LAMBS. And, we heard that our kid has been accepted into their school. Thank God!



But, did you notice what I noticed with the bold text on the header of the school lottery results? That there are "no spaces available for PK4 and Kindergarten"? Most likely meaning that if your kid didn't get into the school during PK3, then it's even less likely your kid will get into the school later (unless his/her younger sibling is a lottery winner).

Before I close out my thoughts here, I want to show you the reality of this insanity. Our son got into one of the 40 slots out of 627 students that applied (via parents, of course). If you compare the list below with the list pictured above, then you'll notice that the PK4 and the Kindergarten lists don't expand to 627 students. PK4 ended with 307 and Kindergarten ended with 215 students (still applying). Thank you LAMB for your transparency.


Overall, this doesn't excuse the system that our nation has created for our families. For a nation that prizes its morals and values based on a family foundation, our nation is failing without a doubt. In conclusion, parents will not only have to be smart with parenting their own children but also other children in the neighborhood if we truly want this nation to be safe and healthy.

God help America.

Thursday, February 21, 2019

Detecting Liars: The Jussie Smollet Case



Disclaimer: I'm no expert in detecting liars.

So, in watching and observing this case with Jussie Smollet, here are some things that I considered when detecting if he was lying:
  1. Cussing publicly - a victim most likely will never cuss publicly especially on TV because of their awareness of the public's sensitivities to language, their will to tell the truth for all (including children who could be watching) to hear, and their emotional outlet entitling such cussing has already passed via a private setting
  2. Staring hard - a victim most likely will never stare so hard into an interviewer's eye or camera when making truthful statements partly because of the guilt or shame that comes with feeling such hurtful truth
  3. Looking up (a lot) - a victim most likely will never look up (to think - strategically) more than look down (to think - emotionally)
  4. Tone Change - depending on the question, his tone changed (and even his body language with facial expression; a victim usually has consistent tone throughout an interview because of the pain
  5. TV before Case Closed - a victim usually doesn't interview with TV or any media outlet until the case is closed
What a learning experience considering I just watched this YouTube on detecting lying (by Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_6vDLq64gE




Here's Jussie Smollet's interview with ABC:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXLx5OY21Bk

CNN's Don Lemon discusses his personal relationship with Jussie Smollett in light of the "Empire" actor facing charges of allegedly filing a false police report, claiming two men attacked him.
https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2019/02/21/jussie-smollett-attack-don-lemon-sot-ctn-vpx.cnn

I hope you find this useful.

God Speed,
G2

P.S. Did I fail to mention that it's also Black History Month (when this case happened)?

Wednesday, January 30, 2019

The Price Techies will Pay for Precious Time Passed Over in Silicon Valley

Hey Fam,

Yeah, I often wonder how the reality of life plays out living in Silicon Valley (or in SFO) considering the "Tech Boom" or "Tech Wars". Many say it's the ideal place to be for a techie or software engineer. And, I sometimes dream about being there.

However, after reading this article (which I'm sure is exaggerated), I'd rather stay where I'm at and enjoy my family time.
https://thebolditalic.com/this-is-your-life-in-silicon-valley-933091235095

Sadly, I think our next generation raised, on social technology, stressed out parents, increasingly unfriendly competition, and no time to truly learn who they are without being compared to others, will be at a disadvantage by the time they graduate from college (if they graduate or even if they make it) and have some resentment towards my generation.

All this to say - there's a price to pay when sacrificing long term gain for short term gain. Especially, when the price is paid with your family, then nothing will be more personal of a long term loss.

Take care of your family first. True friends will be like real family. Wise work will keep you adding value to the world while seeing your personal value also go up (and not based on some stock market evaluation).

God Speed,
G2